Kevin: "It's about personal responsibility. As we go through life, things happen. If it's a bad thing, we think, 'Oh that hurt me, I'm going to change myself so that doesn't happen again.' Or if it's good, we think, 'That feels good, I'll adjust my persnality so that happens again.' But we forget that WE are the ones that made ourselves that way. You have to take accountability for that if you're unhappy."
Jaime: "In relationships too. I would add one thing to what your friend Erika said (see Erika's post): Relationships are only successful if you're both 100% accountable in them. It's not 50/50. If something is wrong, you have too look at yourself first."
(Post-official-question-asking)
Kevin's answer: "I would tell myself to leave the relationships that were all 'take'. You know, some people you just try and try to fix things and they just aren't trying at all. They just take and take. It sucks all your energy. But then with the right people it's the opposite-- it's like it's a competition to see who can GIVE more. But again, it's your responsibility to make yourself happier by walking away from the people who just take."
Jaime's answer: "Well, I'm a teacher. And when you teach you do 'backwards planning'. For example, if I need the kids to write a report on animals, before that I need to teach them to write citations and before that I need to teach them to use the library and before I that I need to teach them about how to look for books-- so on and so on.
I would tell myself that you can do 'backwards planning' for your whole life. When I met Kevin we decided to sail around the world together. But I'm just a teacher, and I always thought things like, 'well, I don't have the money or the time to do that.' So I had to backwards plan-- think about the money, the timing, buy a sailboat, teach Kevin to sail-- etc. And it worked! It took five years but we actually did it."