When I was 25 I worried a lot about whether people liked me. I have always felt like a misfit, especially within a circle of women, so I often tried to fit in by being the nicest, most understanding, most forgiving person I could be. Over and over again I'd give people I didn't even like that much an abundance of my time and energy.
At 25, I wish I had known to always ask "Do I like this person?" before I asked, "Does this person like me." I want my time and energy to be used wisely.
PS: I also wish I had known that it is nearly impossible to change someone's mind.
PSS: I wish I had known that it was totally normal and okay to be an introvert. At 41, I still feel like a misfit, but I'm much more okay with that now than I was at 25.
At 25, I wish I had known to always ask "Do I like this person?" before I asked, "Does this person like me." I want my time and energy to be used wisely.
PS: I also wish I had known that it is nearly impossible to change someone's mind.
PSS: I wish I had known that it was totally normal and okay to be an introvert. At 41, I still feel like a misfit, but I'm much more okay with that now than I was at 25.